Human Development - Independence Is The First Step

“Freedom is loyalty to the best self and principles, and it is frequently disloyalty to overall idols and fetishes.” Mark Twain

According to my research, my experiences and my expressions, I see human growth as a travel - a steep rise from dependence to independence to interdependence into transcendence. This lifetime journey begins at dawn, when we are dependent on our parents and other loved ones.

The process of getting physically independent is almost automatic with age. especialista comportamental em tubarão take up jobs, move from our parents’ houses, get married and have kids - steps toward accepting responsibility for our own lives as well as for the family members that are now dependent on us. For all, our quest for independence ends here.

But being human isn’t only about physical and material improvement. We need to grow emotionally and intellectually. Emotionally, many people stay dependent - allowing scenarios around us control our emotions. If we’re not masters of our emotions, can we actually be masters of our own fate?

Emotional maturity or independence isn’t about trying to control what happens to people. Instead it’s about how we respond to what happens to us. It is freedom of choice in how we respond to adverse circumstances. We could lash out, as we might have done as children, or we can choose to be concluded and thoughtful and optimistic about moving forward.

In my books about finding one’s true calling, I borrow a tool from ‘The Art of Possibility’ from Ben and Rosamund Zander. I ask participants to invoke the feeling of ‘How Beautiful’ whenever they are in a poor position. For instance, imagine you are late to an important meeting because a flight has been postponed. Would you encounter it as a superb moment? Would you find that as wonderful?

Most participants look at me like I’m mad. “That could be like lying to myself,” the say. “Even though I say that a situation is not so bad, it is still a poor circumstance. It will not go away.” As we workshop this thought further, they concede that they’re more likely to think of creative responses when they are in a good mood than when they are angry and angry. They also see the way the bothersome situation could actually be an excellent opportunity to learn something new or generate some creative thoughts. They walk out thinking, “Hmm, I wonder whether this could work. I’m going to try it…”

Moving on to cognitive growth, de Tocqueville remarked on how Americans have little independence of mind but so much freedom of discussion. It is a worldwide phenomenon.

Starting from our schooldays, we are educated answers to questions that we do not even have. We are led to think that there is one correct answer and there’s some expert somewhere who has figured it out. As we grow into adults, we are brainwashed by the media, the marketing messages and the governmental propaganda; we reside in the comfort of never needing to exercise our wisdom. In the Middle Ages, faith forced humanity to some set of beliefs. In the current times, we accept the supposed wisdom of scientists and pseudo-scientists - like economists - without much question.